Many of us keep a running dialogue inside our heads. The most substantial conversations from day to day are with ourselves. So, what you are saying during these talks really matters. Are you personalizing things that happened throughout the day and magnifying little events and making them huge events.
Well...it's time to cut that out.
I've decided I'm going to speak to myself using positive self-talk. When we talk to others we often speak to them like we love them and care about them so the same should be true when we have inner conversations. Positive self-talk is encouraging, supportive and compassionate.
No longer am I speaking to myself in an unhelpful and hurtful way. Negative self-talk looks and feels like judgmental thoughts, blaming, shaming, and discouraging messaging that comes from our Inner Critic.
It is so important to be careful with our words and how you talk to yourself because you are listening. Use your vocabulary to build yourself up and provide self-empowerment. Positive self talk can change the entire trajectory of your life.
Here are some examples of ways to use your vocabulary to change your thoughts from Inner Critic to Inner Coach:
"I'm not where I want to be in life." "I know I'm on my way because I've come so far."
"I'm too broke to pursue my goals." "I am invested in my ideas and I will do the
necessary research to figure out funding
"I'm not in the best mood today." "Things will improve because I know this is only a
moment in my day."
Of course, everyday won't be perfect and there will be times you use negative self-talk but this is about making a choice to catch ourselves in those moments of self-doubt and rephrasing the negatives into positives. Remember talk to yourself like you would talk to your best friend.